If you have ever visited Germany you have either heard or uttered one of the following complaints, “German women won’t talk to me!” or “German women are so cold!” or “German men never approach me” etc. Germans are ahem, special people, and they really do require their own style of interaction.
While German women are generally the harder of the two to engage in conversation, if they do show interest in you, they mean it. They will not waste their time flirting with anybody, as German men might do in order ‘to make friends.’
I combined my own experience with some intense flirtation discussions with Germans, and these are the conclusions. Here is a step-by-step guide of how to approach the person you’ve had your eye on in the bar.
1. Make eye contact and hold it. This seems like a no-brainer but this is NEVER a step Germans themselves will skip. In fact, this IS the epitome of’flirting’ for most Germans. German men love being approached by women by suprise since they so rarely are. I would say just go talk to them if you find them attractive, however if they are not interested it could be uncomfortable if you skip the eye contact step. German women are more likely to turn on the cold if you approach them without the necessary eye-forewarning.
2. Smile. A German man is accustomed to German women who won’t give him the time of day, even when they are interested. He will probably leap out of his chair to come speak to you if you do this, I kid you not. Throw the guy a bone. German women on the other hand might be put off by this kind of ‘forwardness’ but it is pretty much the only way to break the ice, unless you care to send some drinks their way beforehand. That probably will do you very little good anyway, although they might feel forced to speak to you briefly out of gratitude.
3. Wave them over or move in for the kill. For German men I suggest signaling them over with your hand while you two are holding eye contact. This might seem bold but they are shy creatures, and without encouragement will easily pass up an opportunity, no matter how interested they are. For German women I suggest moving over to talk to them. They will NOT respond to the wave over, and if you attempt it, prepare to be unpardonably ignored.
Tip 1: If you arrange to meet a German later on in a bar or club, they will probably bring friends even if you two don’t discuss it. Therefore I recommend doing the same.
Tip 2: When a German man asks for your number he means business, 90% of the time you will hear from him within 24 hours. He won’t call you he will text you, and use a lot of smily icons. A German woman you should text first though.
Tip 3: German men are kind of like doves, in that they are looking to mate for life. What you think might be a fling might mean much more to him. German women on the other hand might be looking for a fling, so beware expecting more.
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